The Problem with Being a People Pleaser

written by Kelly Langston | Featured

May 2, 2013

Are you a People Pleaser?

I admit it—I am … but I’m going to stop.happy new year 2013 on the beach

If that sounds somewhat selfish to you, I want you to know that at first it did to me, too.

For most of my life, I have been filled with anxiety, wondering what other people thought about me: my actions, my attitude, my appearance, my words, my style (or lack of style!) … well, you name it.

I erroneously thought that pleasing others was God’s will. But that is not what Scripture says! The words of Jesus are to “love one another,” not to “please one another.”  (John 13:34-35)  And there is a powerful difference.

I came across this Scripture verse today:

Fearing people is a dangerous trap,
but trusting the LORD means safety.

Proverbs 29:25 (NLT)

The fear of man is a trap.  It keeps us from God’s will for our life. It’s a snare, one that sounds good, but in fact is self-serving and downright dangerous. We should live to please God, not please others.

Think about it: Is that anything that God has called you to do that you hesitated to do, all because of a concern about what others might think of you?  Speak to a stranger about Christ? (They’ll think I am crazy.)  Stop by a friend’s house unexpectedly to encourage them? (They’ll consider me rude.) Give up a volunteering service because God was calling you to do something else? (How can I leave them hanging? I’ll let them down.)

Call me guilty! I’ve done all of those things.

So today, I am choosing to go where God calls me to go, regardless of what others might think about my choices.

I encourage you to do the same, because I’m telling you, there is great release in letting go of a desire to please others and instead choosing to please only God.

It ushers in an incredible freedom and allows a space in our lives for miracle to occur.

Won’t you join me?

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Kelly Langston Owner
Kelly Langston sees prayer move mountains... and she writes about it. Author and prayer enthusiast, inspires through her writing, combining faith, storytelling, and transformative prayer to encourage deeper a rich spiritual connection with the Father. Having authored four non-fiction books and a series of "God Speaks" digital journals, she guides readers towards intimate conversations with God and recognizes the impact of prayer on our world.

  • In doing things to please God, who ultimately will benefit from this?
    – Your fellow man!
    Did any one do anything for God’s sake that harmed another man or animal?
    What you’re really dooing Kelly, is changing the false gods for the true One!
    Thank you

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